Monday, October 9, 2006

TO MOVE ON

Dear Spike:

For a few years now we’ve been getting by in a 1993 Nissan Sentra. I did my best to vet it for problems — we must have taken six or seven different used cars to our mechanic, John, for inspection before settling on this one — but almost from the beginning it was obvious that we’d bought a problem car.

Immediately, we learned the seat belt alarm would go off whether we were strapped in or not. We came to think of this as the way the car — which we called Moroni (a Utah joke, which you’ll definitely understand if we raise you here) — would warn us against bad driving habits.

One hand on the wheel? Beep.

Nodding off on a long stretch of freeway? Beep. Beep.

Fiddling with the stereo when you should be watching the road? Beeeeeeeeeeeep.

A few months after we bought the car the transmission went out. Later, we realized it wouldn’t hold its alignment, an attribute that resulted in a few badly worn tires. The windshield seemed to be a magnet for flying rocks. The wipers never worked right. The paint was peeling and the doors didn’t always close.

So when I left to write about the war in Iraq, last year, I decided I would prefer your mother have a good car to drive to work and back. One less worry for me. One less worry for her. We bought a brand new Honda Civic and we’ve been very content with that purchase.

When I returned, I took Moroni — it was fine for the short ride to my office and back whenever the weather didn’t allow me to ride my bike.

But with you on the way — and with Moroni in need of a new set of tires, an alignment check, a new windshield and emissions work — we finally decided to move on.

In the past, I would never have considered buying a hatch back, or a car with all-wheel-drive. Tinted windows? Spacious back seats? Cargo room? Not really necessary.



Back before I met your mom, it was important to me to have a fast and stylish car. After we were hitched, I just wanted something reliable. And now, my priorities have changed again. As I discussed my desires with my friend, Michael, who has forgotten more about cars than I’ll ever know, I found myself using words like “stroller room” and “easy baby seat access.”

You’re not even a half-inch long and yet you’re already changing my life in subtle and profound ways. That’s power.

But no, you cannot have the keys. Ever.

Love,
dad

7 comments:

Unknown said...

Hi Spikes dad, Thank you for commenting I fully respect and appreciate your honesty. I'm glad my ramblings is doing something other then sounding like a gripe session. Good luck to you and your wife! I have been reading your posts and I feel that writing like this will help calm your fears and also help your brain figure things out when times become tough with the little one. I'm by far no expert i mean, she's only 6 weeks old now and I mostly survive on instinct with her but that would be my main advice to any one.. Follow what your gut says and don't hesitate! Thank you for sharing, I'ts nice to see a Daddys perspective on things and I look forward to reading more!

DMR said...

Your daughter is adorable!

DMR said...

Ack, that went on the wrong blog, thought I was signing Pim's. It's been a long week, if you couldn't tell from my entry.

www.dearspike.com said...

Darnit, Drama! I thought maybe you had some inside information about Spike's sex!

Thanks to you and Pim for posting. Keep reading (and, for heaven's sake, keep letting me know what I need to be telling Spike!)

matthew

iwiwag said...

Nice car :)

Anonymous said...

Congrats on the new car. It's very pretty and looks safe enough for my grandchild.

Grandma L.

DeAnn said...

I want to say two things:

1. Cool car.

2. It's actually more of a Mormon joke than a Utah joke. I get it and I've never even been to Utah. I am a (recovering) Mormon, however.